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Lms if you have been personally hurt by me living my life lmao
hiiiya buddy so u do realize that ppl faking systems directly affects real systems right lmao
Do u realize calling systems fake directly affects real systems right lmao
yea good thing fake systems aren’t real then
Also, another point is ur right! Fake systems aren’t real BECAUSE ALL SYSTEMS REGARDLESS ARE AMAZING AND VALID AND REAL NO MATTER WHAT.
im losing my shit
Gotta love the engaging conversation I’m having. Are all your comebacks just you circle jerkin it?
w h a t
I mean you have yet to make any valid points other than you repeating yourself like a broken record. Like?? All you’re saying lacks substance and wow believing non did/osdd systems should die? like yikes. The fact you can’t come up with anything other than this or even since your sticking to your extremely lacking arguement of needing to have did/osdd to be a system without even using the DSM5 to back up your claims says a lot.
You stick by the psychological fields’ diagnosis criterion that is always changing and fluctuating as they research more and more shows how ass backwards your view and overall “argument” is.
All you appear to be is someone who is throwing a tantrum yelling that people are fake to feel better about yourself, showcasing you are just a bully at this point.
look buddy its late n im tired. also calm down jfc
anyways, systems can only form from a trauma related/induced disorder or w/e.. like did n osdd
so like.. seein ppl claim to be systems but not havin the “cool young trauma n abuse experience”, is rlly fuckin Nasty.. so just…. calm down lmao
imo it’s like iding outside ur race. if u don’t got that “’”‘experience"“ don’t got it welp sorry pal(kill fake systems 😚✌)
Oh look! It’s Systemhop3!
Really going overboard with the whole “death to people who think differently” thing though. What’s up with that?
Sincerely,
A system with trauma.its? not abt thinking differently?? its abt convincing urself n other ppl that ur a system, when u damn well aren’t
yall are dense. … jfc..
so im gonna use myself as an example since yall are some DENSE fuckers
im a minor, and when i was abt 3, i think i started getting abused more often then before, and ofc now it’s more too etc etc
but ive been abused since i was WAY YOUNG, been through that kinda hell for fuckin forever. which, ofc bc im writing this, caused a system to form (im rlly bad at wording ik it sounds bad)so BASICALLY i hate ppl who don’t have any of that lovely abuse from when they were young, but still act like they’re us
fake systems don’t get shit lmao. what if someone else is fronting, and ur parents come home and see u (the alter as u, not saying alters are interchangeable), but then since ur NOT who they think u are, u don’t remember their names? what if u don’t respond to someone else’s name bc u kno it’s not urs? u get more of that fun abuse usually. fun!
but w fake systems, they can “turn that shit off”. someone fronting and u don’t want them to be? bye! someone else is frontin now! ur safe from any problems and or issues a “bad” alter would’ve caused!! aren’t u glad?
DO U SEE MY POINT LMAO
TLDR: I see that you think you have all the problems. Please realize that we nontraumagenic systems often have to deal with those exact same problems too. We Crew have dealt with every single one of those you mention, and we know we’re not the only ones. But we have ways of handling most of those as they relate to our plurality, and those ways are also things you can learn. They’re often taught in therapy.
So, problems? I did go through some serious shit when I was a kid, all the way up through adulthood. (Rot13’d for brief summary of it, because tumblr mobile is lacking.) (Major neglect, physical and verbal and emotional abuse.)
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TLDR of that: I went through a ton of tougher shit than I should have, lots more than I bothered to write down, and have PTSD symptoms from some of it.
We’ve had systemmates not remember important stuff before. It’s scary. Luckily our own body name isn’t one of those things, because the autopilot kicks in to automatically answer. But still, it sucks. But having a shared memory pool (like we do for most outerworld things) IS something people with DID CAN AND DO achieve through therapy though.
Re: “Someone fronting and you don’t want them to be” – yep, that happens to us, too. We have to be careful when Jas fronts, because she gets front-stuck. She once had to make a phone call to my ex husband, pretending to be me. He noticed the significant change in voice and asked, and I still remember how it felt to feel her panic and try to hide it, and me unable to do anything.
Guess what else DID systems can learn with therapy? Controlled switching. (We still have a bit of work to do on really getting that down pat ourselves.)
Problems with abusive authority figures doesn’t go away when you’re an adult, either. My boss gave me so much grief so many times – chewed me out once to the point of tears in front of my coworkers – because she didn’t (used to) believe fibromyalgia was a real thing and thought I was just making excuses to be lazy, when I was in so much pain I couldn’t even stand up straight and had pins and needles from the waist down. If she learned we ID as multiple – say, if one of the coworkers we trust with it talks about it in front of her or calls “me” by the “wrong” name in front of her or something or if we just screw up acting like/pretending to be a singlet around her – well then. Hello another traumatizing bit of verbal abuse at work and bye-bye job and money and roof and food and all those lovely things that income provides. Because unlike people with dx’d DID, I don’t have the protection of the ADA for being multiple and can get fired for it. It’s not diagnosed or even diagnosable, so it’s not a protected “disability”. And good luck to us finding another job half as good, with our physical limitations and lack of experience in any other field in a reasonable amount of time. (Thank God we’ve got some people we can count on to help us out if that ever does happen, though. It’s still a terrifying thought.)
Oh, and my ex? We came out to him. He didn’t take it well. Major emotional and psychological abuse from him over it, which we’re still trying to get over a year after leaving him. We lost a whole huge community of friends and supporters because we split from him too, people we considered to be like family. Losing them hurts something fierce.
Oh, and “bad” alters? Aery has caused some shit before. She took responsibility for it and made it right, because that’s what our code of conduct calls for. Wasn’t easy, but it was done.
Guess what else you learn in therapy? How to work well together as a team and trust one another. Yes, even your troublemakers, even your abuser introjects.
You’re still a kid. As tough as your condition is now, as hellish as it may be, this is NOT your forever. Y’all can and WILL get stronger, get better, get safer. You’ve got the examples of tons of other multiples who’ve been where you are now, who’ve come out of it better, stronger, tougher. Still multiple, but in a much better place.
Hang in there, kid, and remember, the grass ain’t all that greener on the other side. It just looks that way because yours is still growing in.
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