stop telling people what to ship or kink because people can like whatever the fuck they want whether you consider it “problematic” or not mind your own fucking business 2k16
UNLESS WHAT THEYRE SHIPPING ACTUALLY IS PROBLEMATIC!! LIKE DONT ROMANTICIZE RAPE AND ABUSE!!
um no literally do not tell people what to ship or kink. I meant what I said. if you don’t like it, don’t read it/ship it.
Why would you ever write about rape or abuse? I’d understand if it was a backstory for a character but to actually romanticize about it? Really?
it doesn’t matter why. people can feel and write and express whatever they want to write, for whatever reasons they want to. they’re the creator. if you don’t wanna read it, you don’t have to. it’s not up to you or me or anyone else to police that.
Not when they’re romanticizing rape and abuse. It’s disgusting and shameful to even think of a man or a woman forcing themselves onto you is a sign of romance. Do you know what people go through to move on? By authors writing these type of stories and you encouraging such stories, your indirectly encouraging rape.
As someone who has been both raped and abused, I don’t need you sticking up for someone like me. I agree with @dollylux. The issue isn’t whether writing about rape/abuse is wrong or right– it’s about not policing the fucking internet and realizing that you, as a user of the internet, are responsible for what you see. That’s why blacklisting exists. That’s why you don’t go looking for things that could be triggering.
To say writing about rape and abuse encourages rape and abuse is like saying writing about air encourages us to breathe. Rape and abuse are going to exist, unfortunately, whether someone writes about them or not. And I would much rather read a fanfiction author putting a mildly graphic realistic rape/abuse scene in a story, say, about overcoming adversity than keeping these issues in the dark.
Do you know what keeping issues in the dark does? It allows fuckboys to troll the internet saying they’re gonna “rape” you on Call of Duty. But if people wanna write it with respect and the correct gravitas behind it, it forces the issue to the light. I see no issue with it whatsoever.
I’m sorry, friends, I hardly ever put my opinion in on these things. But I can’t STAND when people police fandoms in the sake of defending rape/abuse survivors because they think that gives their argument a leg to stand on. Fuck off, thanks.
If two people in a consensual relationship choose to role play a scenario – which often includes a Master/Slave or yes even a “rape scenario” – it’s seen by both people involved as consensual because (if they’re doing it properly) they’ve discussed beforehand what each of their limits are, and very often exactly what the scenario is going to be and what they would both like to get out of it. Even after that point, they both should have safewords and not enter the scenario unless they trust the other person to respect their boundaries. Why would they want to do something like this? All kinds of reasons. They might enjoy power play, enough rough sex, have a fantasy they want to explore in a safe way, or just want to change things up.
When I sit down to read a fic with a rape scene in it, 99% of the time the author has tagged/warned accordingly, so I have a pretty good idea of what I’m getting myself into. I also know that, much like a role playing scenario, the events within the story are fictional and I have consented to read the fic and the author has consented to share the fic with whoever might read it. Much like people at a BDSM club might wear a mask to protect their privacy, both the author (and myself) are probably using pseudonyms to protect our privacy because it isn’t anyone’s business what gets our rocks off unless we choose to share it (and some do). It’s worth noting that age play is another form of role play, and when I read a fic tagged with underage (or yes even ‘extreme underage’) I consider it to be age play.
It’s also worth noting that most of the kinks I enjoy reading about are things that I have never actually tried in person. My sex life is almost non-existent tbh. There are some things I wouldn’t mind trying with the right partner, but there are other things I enjoy reading about that I will probably never try (many of which I probably wouldn’t be physically capable of trying because I am not a gymnast nor do I have the stamina of a pro athlete). The fictional fantasy is good enough for me.
But anyhow. If at any point while reading the fic I decide that it’s NOT what I signed up for, my safe word is the X button at the corner of my screen. Let me repeat that:
my safe word is the X button at the corner of my screen
You’d better believe there have been times that I have used that option. Sometimes, during that 1% of times that the author didn’t tag/warn appropriately I’ll send a polite message to the author, but usually I just move on. The biggest thing, btw, that will get me to close out (or more likely skip the fic all together) is if rape is used as a sort of “meet cute” where then a “healthy” relationship is eventually formed between the pairing. That’s a squick of mine.
Squick, btw, is a fandom-created word (or at least, fandom transformed the definition). Legend has it that it was originally slang for skull fucking – as in fucking a hole drilled in someone’s skull. That feeling you just felt while reading that sentence? That’s what it feels like to be squicked out by something. Squicks, much like kinks, are personal and unique to each person. What turns you on might be the thing that turns me OFF, and vice versa. It’s not something that triggers you, it’s just something that you don’t like.
Because we don’t all have to like the same things.
TL;DR: Read what you want to read, or don’t read it if you don’t want to. The people who write/read it should all be consenting adults, and it’s really not your concern what they do in the comfort of their own computers.
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