Hi um! I appreciate your kin ≠ gender post, but the line about gender being “visible at all times” really rubs me wrong. For example: a stranger would probably assume I’m a cis girl. I’m agender; it’s not visible. The statement just feels really exclusive of people who can’t (or don’t want to) present in a manner that ‘matches’ their gender. Am I misinterpreting it?? Thank you.
Sounds like I phrased it a little bit poorly! When I wrote ‘visible at all times’ what I meant was that people are evaluating and making assumptions about your gender every time they see you, based on your looks/presentation, which as you mention is a problem for a lot of transpeople!
Its funny. Thinking about this it seems weird from an outside perspective that we as humans are constantly looking at one another and trying to guess what sexual organs the other person has. And getting upset if we can’t figure it out or get it wrong. I guess it makes sense biologically, but man is it weird.
Especially in context coming from a race where we all had the same parts and it wasn’t a thing.
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