In the twentieth century, lesbian subcultures spread throughout cities in the United States as well. Eventually, lesbianism would go mainstream, finding representation on network television and the pages of mass-market magazines, as well as within the language of nondiscrimination statutes. But this shirt to the mainstream caused a curious amnesia. The self-congratulatory certitude that modern times represented an apogee of tolerance compared to the benighted wasteland of the past has made it hard to fit women like Charity and Sylvia into the historical memory.

How could two women have forged a marriage in a traditional New England village, governed by the old faith, and been accepted by their family and friends despite every evidence that they were lovers? Our shock at this tale indicates a failure of imagination. The history of sexual nonconformity is not only a saga of oppression and suffering; it is also a tale of creative ingenuity and accommodation. It is a story of beloved aunts and winking nephews, of cruel gossip and endurance, of erotic touch and spiritual unease, of guarded reputations and public-mindedness, of private pleasures and willful ignorance. The historical record is littered with Charities and Sylvias; we need only open our eyes and see.

Charity & Sylvia: A Same-Sex Marriage in Early America, Rachel Hope Cleves. What a beautiful book – highly, highly recommended for anyone even tangentially interested in queer history, early America, or the nonlinear nature of social progress. (via funereal-disease)