Anon, I’m afraid I don’t have any specific resources for you, but I can assure you that you are correct, what your parents are doing to you is a form of psychological and sexual abuse.

I went through very similar abuse from my father who considered himself a ‘crude and open’ man, constantly making sexual ‘jokes’ in front of his children. I will not go into the things he said, but he certainly should not have been saying such things to children, and he shouldn’t have been hanging sexual fetish posters or fetish gear on the wall in an environment where his children were living. You are absolutely right to feel like this is abusive and its having a negetive impact on you.