You absolutely can, srsllyno. I believe in you. No matter what is going on, I believe that you can make a plan, and escape the toxic environment that you’re in. Even if it seems impossible from inside, its not. Maybe[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Your mother is projecting, and gaslighting you. This is a very common abuse technique. I’m so sorry that she’s doing this to you. Please remember that you are not doing anything wrong, and you should not feel guilty.
I’m so sorry that she shamed you for loving yourself the way you are, anon, because that’s just how everyone should love themselves. I’m sorry that your mom can’t get past the idea of a daughter she has in her[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Oh gosh. My friend. :C you are amazing. You are beautiful. You are a worthwhile person. Your weight, your body shape, neither of those means that you are not worthy of respect and love. You are worthy of respect and[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Abuse is abuse, is abuse, is abuse. It doesn’t matter how old you are, the way they are treating you is not right. Imagine two other adults treating one another that way. Is it abuse? Yes it is.
Absolutely, anon. Being “overprotective” can definitely become abuse quite easily. Anyone who doesn’t think so should go ahead and watch Disney’s Tangled.
It is absolutely not insensitive or hurtful to others for you to disown your abuser. You are absolutely in the right to do this, and many children of toxic parents do the same thing. You can call him sperm donor,[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
(2/2) It’s just hard for me to focus when I start going numb or I get extremely anxious. She’s used my own diary entries against me, showing them to my doctor as proof that I have a “porn addiction” (I[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Hi anon, I’m so glad you’ll be able to get out of your abusive situation soon, and I hope that you can make that move permanent. Until you can get out, some tips I have are: 1. No matter what[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
And now I’m scared I’ll never be able to take care of myself. I ate at the cafeteria and didn’t have monthly bills and struggle with daily tasks as well as surviving socially. When left alone I mostly just read[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Put me and my sister in a constant state of fear. He almost killed us by driving in front of a tram. Another thing is my parents refuse to acknowledge my sexuality and yet they have gay relatives? They confuse[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Abuse, and neglect, anon, which is also abuse. The fact that you see him very little does not change the fact that when you do interact, he is abusive towards you. If his being ‘rough’ with you is physical, that’s physical[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
This is the same behavior my own father displayed. Its all about his control over you. He only wants you to ‘grow up’ insofar as he wants you to do exactly what he tells you.
I understand your feelings. Please stay strong and don’t give in to gaslighting and abuse. I know you can get out and live a full, healthy life and start to recover. If you ever need any help or resources, please[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
the validation i needed because i always felt like it was wrong, my mum used to be quite bad for it too but recently she’s gotten better because she accepts her faults but my dad I don’t think ever will[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
✷ I was shorter than my mom even after I was taller than her and when I said I was 5’2" they insisted I was wrong and still shorter than my mom even though she’s 5’1.5". Also I got yelled[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
a lot of people have unwanted sexual thoughts (intrusive thoughts) about people, even family members. While this could be a result of repressed abuse, there is no reason to jump to that as a cause immediately. It could also be[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
It entirely depends, anon. I have memory problems due to dissociation and trauma related to abuse too. Starting recovery can help, and I recommend talking with an empathetic therapist or counselor who understands what you’re going through.
For me its Christmas carols, anon. My parents were always very careful to behave when we were around relatives at Christmas, so I have a lot of positive memories of that.
Anon, we are socialized to believe in, love and trust our parents before anyone else. Its absolutely normal to have a hard time divorcing from those ingrained feelings of love, even when our parents are very abusive.
(((hospital anon))) she didnt really.. act like she cared at all. shes still back to her normal ways of screaming at me until i cry and then yelling at me for crying…. i only got out of the hospital and[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Hi Star. 🙂 I’m really sorry but its not normal for a child to be scared of their parents, it is a major sign of abuse. It is no wonder your are scared of your father, because he abused you[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
It is not normal for a child to be afraid of their parent, and especially not for them to be afraid of being molested. I recommend that any child who expresses these fears speak to a therapist or counselor.
@fairlylocaledgelord your mother is abusive. I am so sorry you are experiencing this abuse, and I hope you will be able to get away soon. Threatening to hit you is abuse. Screaming at you is abuse. Insulting you and telling[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
2/2 just wondering if you would consider my situation abusive? he’s definitely verbally abusive and never offers emotion support but does to his girlfriend and her daughter, he consistently makes me feel like a bad person and shouts at me[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Listen to your counselor and your dad, anon. Don’t engage with your mother when she’s like this. You know what’s going to happen, no matter what she says. She’s just going to abuse you. Here are some tips on setting[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Abusive behaviors and patterns are abusive no matter who is behind them, or what is causing them. Mental illness is a reason for abuse, but it is not an excuse for it. You do not deserve or have to tolerate[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
(*Part 2*) She was lying on the floor bleeding and unconsious, while he ran out the back door, and I was panicked and terrified. I blacked out after that, and have no memory of what came next. I’m sorry, I[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
(Part 2) He never hits me, but when I cry because his insults hurt my feelings, I’m called a crybaby, manipulative, or even histrionic (I do NOT have HPD). He claims that I try to manipulate him by crying, and[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
(2/?) “I’m sorry for making you upset, but I will not apologize for punishing you” I’m not entirely sure if all this is considered abuse though, since she’s not always like this. She can be super duper nice too, and[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…