Oh gosh. My friend. :C you are amazing. You are beautiful. You are a worthwhile person. Your weight, your body shape, neither of those means that you are not worthy of respect and love. You are worthy of respect and[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Abuse is abuse, is abuse, is abuse. It doesn’t matter how old you are, the way they are treating you is not right. Imagine two other adults treating one another that way. Is it abuse? Yes it is.
Sorry I misread about your jobs, anon! Good for you. I am honestly impressed and proud of you for doing so much. As for your brother… oof. I am so sorry that he’s a part of this abusive household too.[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
It is absolutely not insensitive or hurtful to others for you to disown your abuser. You are absolutely in the right to do this, and many children of toxic parents do the same thing. You can call him sperm donor,[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
(2/2) It’s just hard for me to focus when I start going numb or I get extremely anxious. She’s used my own diary entries against me, showing them to my doctor as proof that I have a “porn addiction” (I[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Hi anon, I’m so glad you’ll be able to get out of your abusive situation soon, and I hope that you can make that move permanent. Until you can get out, some tips I have are: 1. No matter what[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Put me and my sister in a constant state of fear. He almost killed us by driving in front of a tram. Another thing is my parents refuse to acknowledge my sexuality and yet they have gay relatives? They confuse[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
This is the same behavior my own father displayed. Its all about his control over you. He only wants you to ‘grow up’ insofar as he wants you to do exactly what he tells you.
Anon, we are socialized to believe in, love and trust our parents before anyone else. Its absolutely normal to have a hard time divorcing from those ingrained feelings of love, even when our parents are very abusive.
(((hospital anon))) she didnt really.. act like she cared at all. shes still back to her normal ways of screaming at me until i cry and then yelling at me for crying…. i only got out of the hospital and[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Hi Star. 🙂 I’m really sorry but its not normal for a child to be scared of their parents, it is a major sign of abuse. It is no wonder your are scared of your father, because he abused you[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
It is not normal for a child to be afraid of their parent, and especially not for them to be afraid of being molested. I recommend that any child who expresses these fears speak to a therapist or counselor.
@fairlylocaledgelord your mother is abusive. I am so sorry you are experiencing this abuse, and I hope you will be able to get away soon. Threatening to hit you is abuse. Screaming at you is abuse. Insulting you and telling[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
2/2 just wondering if you would consider my situation abusive? he’s definitely verbally abusive and never offers emotion support but does to his girlfriend and her daughter, he consistently makes me feel like a bad person and shouts at me[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Being 16 doesn’t mean you can’t report it, anon, but I understand if you chose not to. I am so sorry that your parents have been abusing you like this. It sounds like they are physically and emotionally abusive, as[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Its very simple. If the behavior would be considered abusive if the person doing it was not the parent of the child, then the behavior is abuse. The rules aren’t magically different when you’re the parent of a child, abuse[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Listen to your counselor and your dad, anon. Don’t engage with your mother when she’s like this. You know what’s going to happen, no matter what she says. She’s just going to abuse you. Here are some tips on setting[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
(*Part 2*) She was lying on the floor bleeding and unconsious, while he ran out the back door, and I was panicked and terrified. I blacked out after that, and have no memory of what came next. I’m sorry, I[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
(Part 2) He never hits me, but when I cry because his insults hurt my feelings, I’m called a crybaby, manipulative, or even histrionic (I do NOT have HPD). He claims that I try to manipulate him by crying, and[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
(2/?) “I’m sorry for making you upset, but I will not apologize for punishing you” I’m not entirely sure if all this is considered abuse though, since she’s not always like this. She can be super duper nice too, and[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
2) think I’m being abused emotionally because my grades are never good enough if they’re not A’s because that’s what my parents drilled into me so I get panic attacks if I think I’ll get less, and I jump when[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Here are some ideas for those people who are not comfortable fully cutting off their abusive parents, and want to establish good boundaries. Start with distance contact. Only emails or only texts. If they exhibit abusive or demanding behavior, tell[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
(2) that would eventually turn into repeated rehashing of my personal flaws. she was terribly controlling when it came to clothes, hair, makeup, and media consumption (music, tv, internet, etc). but the issue is, now that i’m out of her[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
This is hard, and will depend a lot on your situation, anon. Do you still live with your mother? There might be no way for you to escape spending time with your mother without further abusive consequences. If there’s no[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Unfortunately, anon, there’s not an easy answer here. People’s words effect us, and how we feel, even if the person saying those words is a stranger. When the person is a parent, someone who is supposed to nurture us and[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
its almost like when we arent actually fighting, the fights never happened in the first place. If i get upset or mad later about something they said, they deny saying it and say im exagerating or over reacting. Ive started[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Yes, you are being abused. I am sorry that is the case. Insulting you, punishing you for no reason, threatening violence, and making you feel worthless and useless are all methods of abuse. So is invading your privacy. Those are[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
You Are Allowed To Say ‘NO’. You are not selfish for saying no. You are not a bad person for wanting your own time, money, belongings, personal space and boundaries.
Please don’t be sorry to have sent this, anon. You are a victim of abuse, and that’s terrible. I know it feels like it, but you are not responsible for your mom, no matter she or what others say. I[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Unfortunately anon, you are not wrong. While CPS will always investigate a claim or tip, there can be a very high barrier to them actually removing minors from a household. And a CPS visit that doesn’t result in removal from[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…