I understand your feelings. Please stay strong and don’t give in to gaslighting and abuse. I know you can get out and live a full, healthy life and start to recover. If you ever need any help or resources, please[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
the validation i needed because i always felt like it was wrong, my mum used to be quite bad for it too but recently she’s gotten better because she accepts her faults but my dad I don’t think ever will[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
✷ I was shorter than my mom even after I was taller than her and when I said I was 5’2" they insisted I was wrong and still shorter than my mom even though she’s 5’1.5". Also I got yelled[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
a lot of people have unwanted sexual thoughts (intrusive thoughts) about people, even family members. While this could be a result of repressed abuse, there is no reason to jump to that as a cause immediately. It could also be[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
It entirely depends, anon. I have memory problems due to dissociation and trauma related to abuse too. Starting recovery can help, and I recommend talking with an empathetic therapist or counselor who understands what you’re going through.
For me its Christmas carols, anon. My parents were always very careful to behave when we were around relatives at Christmas, so I have a lot of positive memories of that.
Anon, we are socialized to believe in, love and trust our parents before anyone else. Its absolutely normal to have a hard time divorcing from those ingrained feelings of love, even when our parents are very abusive.
(((hospital anon))) she didnt really.. act like she cared at all. shes still back to her normal ways of screaming at me until i cry and then yelling at me for crying…. i only got out of the hospital and[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Hi Star. 🙂 I’m really sorry but its not normal for a child to be scared of their parents, it is a major sign of abuse. It is no wonder your are scared of your father, because he abused you[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
It is not normal for a child to be afraid of their parent, and especially not for them to be afraid of being molested. I recommend that any child who expresses these fears speak to a therapist or counselor.
@fairlylocaledgelord your mother is abusive. I am so sorry you are experiencing this abuse, and I hope you will be able to get away soon. Threatening to hit you is abuse. Screaming at you is abuse. Insulting you and telling[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
2/2 just wondering if you would consider my situation abusive? he’s definitely verbally abusive and never offers emotion support but does to his girlfriend and her daughter, he consistently makes me feel like a bad person and shouts at me[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Being 16 doesn’t mean you can’t report it, anon, but I understand if you chose not to. I am so sorry that your parents have been abusing you like this. It sounds like they are physically and emotionally abusive, as[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Its very simple. If the behavior would be considered abusive if the person doing it was not the parent of the child, then the behavior is abuse. The rules aren’t magically different when you’re the parent of a child, abuse[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Listen to your counselor and your dad, anon. Don’t engage with your mother when she’s like this. You know what’s going to happen, no matter what she says. She’s just going to abuse you. Here are some tips on setting[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Abusive behaviors and patterns are abusive no matter who is behind them, or what is causing them. Mental illness is a reason for abuse, but it is not an excuse for it. You do not deserve or have to tolerate[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
(*Part 2*) She was lying on the floor bleeding and unconsious, while he ran out the back door, and I was panicked and terrified. I blacked out after that, and have no memory of what came next. I’m sorry, I[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
(Part 2) He never hits me, but when I cry because his insults hurt my feelings, I’m called a crybaby, manipulative, or even histrionic (I do NOT have HPD). He claims that I try to manipulate him by crying, and[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
(2/?) “I’m sorry for making you upset, but I will not apologize for punishing you” I’m not entirely sure if all this is considered abuse though, since she’s not always like this. She can be super duper nice too, and[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
-Fay (2/2) I remember hearing my mom on the phone say,(she was also drinking and smoking, which is normal for her) “I can’t wait ‘till im old and forget my kids” which makes the guilt burn even brighter. but i[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Our society has a real problem when it comes to the bodily autonomy of children. While your actions may be considered abusive, you are not doing anything that hasn’t been repeatedly modeled to you and condoned by a society that[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
2) think I’m being abused emotionally because my grades are never good enough if they’re not A’s because that’s what my parents drilled into me so I get panic attacks if I think I’ll get less, and I jump when[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Here are some ideas for those people who are not comfortable fully cutting off their abusive parents, and want to establish good boundaries. Start with distance contact. Only emails or only texts. If they exhibit abusive or demanding behavior, tell[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
(2) that would eventually turn into repeated rehashing of my personal flaws. she was terribly controlling when it came to clothes, hair, makeup, and media consumption (music, tv, internet, etc). but the issue is, now that i’m out of her[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Trouble remembering childhood events can be a sign of trauma and abuse, sexual or non-sexual. Please remember that non-sexual abuse can be just as damaging as sexual abuse. If you are in a position to I recommend seeking therapy. A[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
This is hard, and will depend a lot on your situation, anon. Do you still live with your mother? There might be no way for you to escape spending time with your mother without further abusive consequences. If there’s no[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Unfortunately, anon, there’s not an easy answer here. People’s words effect us, and how we feel, even if the person saying those words is a stranger. When the person is a parent, someone who is supposed to nurture us and[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
its almost like when we arent actually fighting, the fights never happened in the first place. If i get upset or mad later about something they said, they deny saying it and say im exagerating or over reacting. Ive started[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Abusers, especially abusive parents, don’t want to believe they are/were abusive. The especially do not not want *you* to believe that they were abusive. Abusers always will go out of their way to minimize the harm they have done, and[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I barely remember any of my childhood so I can’t say if anything worse did or didn’t happen. I’ve been told things my brother and I do, like communicating their mood and acting too happy or like a mediator to[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…