Sorry I misread about your jobs, anon! Good for you. I am honestly impressed and proud of you for doing so much. As for your brother… oof. I am so sorry that he’s a part of this abusive household too.[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
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Hi anon, I’m so glad you’ll be able to get out of your abusive situation soon, and I hope that you can make that move permanent. Until you can get out, some tips I have are: 1. No matter what[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Being 16 doesn’t mean you can’t report it, anon, but I understand if you chose not to. I am so sorry that your parents have been abusing you like this. It sounds like they are physically and emotionally abusive, as[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Here are some ideas for those people who are not comfortable fully cutting off their abusive parents, and want to establish good boundaries. Start with distance contact. Only emails or only texts. If they exhibit abusive or demanding behavior, tell[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
This is hard, and will depend a lot on your situation, anon. Do you still live with your mother? There might be no way for you to escape spending time with your mother without further abusive consequences. If there’s no[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Please don’t be sorry to have sent this, anon. You are a victim of abuse, and that’s terrible. I know it feels like it, but you are not responsible for your mom, no matter she or what others say. I[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Unfortunately anon, you are not wrong. While CPS will always investigate a claim or tip, there can be a very high barrier to them actually removing minors from a household. And a CPS visit that doesn’t result in removal from[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Some things you can do for a friend who is being abused: Most importantly, be there for them emotionally. Tell them/remind them what they are going through is abuse, and they do not deserve it. If you can provide a[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
traumaticexperiences: ugh this is really awful, and i don’t know a good solution for this at all, i ran away as soon as i had enough money not to be homeless, and i felt exactly the same – if they[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Of being kicked out. She denies everything she ever done is wrong and says she gets mad at me bc of my “attitude”. I dont know what to do im sick of this and my bf cant help and asks[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I am so sorry, anon. Do you have any way to get away? A car? Someone you can live with for a few weeks while you find a job? You can also look into abuse and homeless shelters in your[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Help him get a prepaid cell phone Give him a place to stay as often as you can. Just being away from abuse for a few hours can be a big relief. Remind him that he is being abused. It[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I am so sorry to hear you’re in this situation, anon. I think in your case the first thing you need to do is to tackle your depression, so you CAN move out and get away from your abuser. Find[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
hey noticed I’ve been distant lately because I realized that I’ve been abused my entire life. They keep pushing family time even harder and one time accused my boyfriend of being abusive because they thought they heard him smack me[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
when people grasp my hair i freak out. my mum also always says things like “because if you don’t then i’ll make your life miserable. i also have a diagnosed learning disability that they won’t let me get and IEP(individual[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Here’s how the phones work. You buy the phone outright. It costs about $10. Then you buy a minutes card that goes along with the service. You follow the instructions on the phone to add the minutes to your account.[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I am so sorry, anon. I hope that you can keep your phone safe for now. While you can, I want you to google local shelters in your area. There may be shelters specifically for victims of abuse and abandonment.[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I am so sorry that this is something you have to go through, anon, that’s terrible. Luckily there are definitely ways for you to pay for college without your parents help. You’ll need to talk to your school counselor for[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Hey anon, I’m so sorry you have to go through that. Threatening to kick you out is abuse, by itself, and you don’t deserve that. My parents did the same thing to me. I don’t know how old you are,[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
The single best piece of advice I can offer young people currently in, and recently escaping environments of abuse is this: If you at all possibly can, buy yourself a $10 prepaid cell phone at walmart and hide it. Give[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I am so sorry, anon. I am not surprised things have gotten worse as you get closer to moving out. What is happening is probably the beginning of what is known as an “extinction burst”. That’s when a behavior temporarily gets[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Hi there, Gabby. 🙂 Do you have a friend at school whose parents you trust? If so, I want you to next time you see them, ask to talk to them alone and tell them it is serious. Tell them[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I’m an adult daughter of a borderline and narcissistic mother. I’m in the process of going no contact. Any advice for coping? -an asker who wanted to remain anonymous Its gonna be hard. I’ve been there, personally. There’s very little[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
That’s hard, anon. Do you have a job? It sounds like you should be looking to leave the house however you can at this point. Focus your effort on moving out and getting out from under your parents thumb. If[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Do you have a sympathetic friend that you could stay with for a little while? If you do, you should try that. Another thing you can do is if you have about $20, go to Walmart and buy a ‘burner’ phone-[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Are you in the United States? I would try talking to your school guidance counselor about this. They may know of services that can help you. Just so you know, guidance counselors are mandatory reporters in the US, so if[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Firstly, make sure there’s really no way you can move out. Is there a sympathetic relative who would take you in, or a friend whose parents would let you live with them for a while? You CAN get emancipated (in[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Please do move out, anon, I know it will be hard, but it will also be so, so worth it! I know you can find some place to live, whether it is with friends, or in affordable housing within your[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…