Absolutely, anon. Being “overprotective” can definitely become abuse quite easily. Anyone who doesn’t think so should go ahead and watch Disney’s Tangled.
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Hi anon, I’m so glad you’ll be able to get out of your abusive situation soon, and I hope that you can make that move permanent. Until you can get out, some tips I have are: 1. No matter what[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
This is a very common abuse tactic, and a large reason why many people with a history of abuse have a hard time saying no, and low self-esteem.
For me its Christmas carols, anon. My parents were always very careful to behave when we were around relatives at Christmas, so I have a lot of positive memories of that.
Our society has a real problem when it comes to the bodily autonomy of children. While your actions may be considered abusive, you are not doing anything that hasn’t been repeatedly modeled to you and condoned by a society that[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Here are some ideas for those people who are not comfortable fully cutting off their abusive parents, and want to establish good boundaries. Start with distance contact. Only emails or only texts. If they exhibit abusive or demanding behavior, tell[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
(2) that would eventually turn into repeated rehashing of my personal flaws. she was terribly controlling when it came to clothes, hair, makeup, and media consumption (music, tv, internet, etc). but the issue is, now that i’m out of her[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
This is hard, and will depend a lot on your situation, anon. Do you still live with your mother? There might be no way for you to escape spending time with your mother without further abusive consequences. If there’s no[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Unfortunately, anon, there’s not an easy answer here. People’s words effect us, and how we feel, even if the person saying those words is a stranger. When the person is a parent, someone who is supposed to nurture us and[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Yes, unfortunately anon, that’s probably the case, and I’m so sorry that it happens to you. Victims of abuse are often trained by their abusers to give everything of themselves. They are told they are being selfish for withholding anything[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Hi anon. My best advice to you is 1. Watch yourself for abusive behavior, and try to avoid it. If you see yourself becoming abusive, remove yourself from the situation until your mood has changed. 2. When you believe you[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Anyone who has been abused, or around abusive, toxic behavior will find themselves second guessing themselves and their own behavior. I know that I have to constantly ask myself if I am being too harsh, and to evaluate my motives[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I am so sorry, anon. You didn’t deserve that abuse, and I’ms sorry that it affects you so strongly to this day. Many of us who were abused definitely struggle with the same difficulties. We become so used to abuse[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
oaluz: long term effects of emotional abuse: a distrust in your perceptions a tendency to be fearful or on guard self-consciousness or fear of how you are coming across an inability to be spontaneous a distrust of people and in[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Please don’t feel bad for caring about your parents, anon. We are conditioned, by society, by our parents, and by our very biology as humans since we are small to love and depend on our parents. It takes a lot[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I’m an adult daughter of a borderline and narcissistic mother. I’m in the process of going no contact. Any advice for coping? -an asker who wanted to remain anonymous Its gonna be hard. I’ve been there, personally. There’s very little[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
You are absolutely justified in feeling hurt, angry and offended by this reaction, anon. Your father, a person who is supposed to care about you, and do anything they can for you, has completely dismissed your pain and suffering, called[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
captain-s-mindfang: Standing on the porch, in my bare feet, in the rain at 7 in the morning. Feeling the drops hitting my face as I close my eyes and look skyward. Smelling the salt in their air and feeling the[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…