Its very simple. If the behavior would be considered abusive if the person doing it was not the parent of the child, then the behavior is abuse. The rules aren’t magically different when you’re the parent of a child, abuse[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Here are some ideas for those people who are not comfortable fully cutting off their abusive parents, and want to establish good boundaries. Start with distance contact. Only emails or only texts. If they exhibit abusive or demanding behavior, tell[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Unfortunately, anon, there’s not an easy answer here. People’s words effect us, and how we feel, even if the person saying those words is a stranger. When the person is a parent, someone who is supposed to nurture us and[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Yes, unfortunately anon, that’s probably the case, and I’m so sorry that it happens to you. Victims of abuse are often trained by their abusers to give everything of themselves. They are told they are being selfish for withholding anything[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
The only thing I do with asks is answer them. I hope that anyone can feel comfortable and safe sending me a message. I do ask that people please don’t send me messages about active suicide or self harm attempts,[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Hi there! 🙂 I wish your friend the best, and please direct them to this blog for any tips or encouragement on getting out of their situation. I don’t promote or reblog any fundraisers on this blog for two reasons:[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Some things you can do for a friend who is being abused: Most importantly, be there for them emotionally. Tell them/remind them what they are going through is abuse, and they do not deserve it. If you can provide a[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority” and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say “if you won’t respect[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Help him get a prepaid cell phone Give him a place to stay as often as you can. Just being away from abuse for a few hours can be a big relief. Remind him that he is being abused. It[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I am so sorry that this is something you have to go through, anon, that’s terrible. Luckily there are definitely ways for you to pay for college without your parents help. You’ll need to talk to your school counselor for[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Anon, I am so sorry to hear about this. Your friends are right, it is not normal or healthy for your parents to hit you under any circumstances. Its abuse. Think about it. Is it ever okay for another adult[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
The single best piece of advice I can offer young people currently in, and recently escaping environments of abuse is this: If you at all possibly can, buy yourself a $10 prepaid cell phone at walmart and hide it. Give[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I am so sorry, anon. I am not surprised things have gotten worse as you get closer to moving out. What is happening is probably the beginning of what is known as an “extinction burst”. That’s when a behavior temporarily gets[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Please don’t feel bad for caring about your parents, anon. We are conditioned, by society, by our parents, and by our very biology as humans since we are small to love and depend on our parents. It takes a lot[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Here are some specific ways from my experience: Parents constantly call you names, or belittle you. (calling you fat, ugly, stupid, etc) Parents blame you for things that are not your fault (blame you for siblings actions, or random events[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…