-Fay (2/2) I remember hearing my mom on the phone say,(she was also drinking and smoking, which is normal for her) “I can’t wait ‘till im old and forget my kids” which makes the guilt burn even brighter. but i[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
2) think I’m being abused emotionally because my grades are never good enough if they’re not A’s because that’s what my parents drilled into me so I get panic attacks if I think I’ll get less, and I jump when[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
its almost like when we arent actually fighting, the fights never happened in the first place. If i get upset or mad later about something they said, they deny saying it and say im exagerating or over reacting. Ive started[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Abusers, especially abusive parents, don’t want to believe they are/were abusive. The especially do not not want *you* to believe that they were abusive. Abusers always will go out of their way to minimize the harm they have done, and[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I barely remember any of my childhood so I can’t say if anything worse did or didn’t happen. I’ve been told things my brother and I do, like communicating their mood and acting too happy or like a mediator to[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Yes, you are being abused. I am sorry that is the case. Insulting you, punishing you for no reason, threatening violence, and making you feel worthless and useless are all methods of abuse. So is invading your privacy. Those are[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Thank you for your kind words, anon. Realizing that what you went through is abuse can be very hard, whether that was child abuse, spousal abuse, physical, emotional, or any other kind. Abusers of all kinds set their abuse up[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Please don’t be sorry to have sent this, anon. You are a victim of abuse, and that’s terrible. I know it feels like it, but you are not responsible for your mom, no matter she or what others say. I[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Physical abuse can be defined as any intentional act causing injury or trauma to another person or animal by way of bodily contact. If you were hit even lightly, or touched in any way that upset you, that’s physical abuse.[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Anon, I’m afraid I don’t have any specific resources for you, but I can assure you that you are correct, what your parents are doing to you is a form of psychological and sexual abuse. I went through very similar[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
My parents did the best they could for me The best they could was Spending hundreds of dollars a month on weed when we didn’t have food or clothes refusing to cook, and refusing to let me use the kitchen[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I am so sorry, anon. All of that you describe to me is abuse, and you don’t deserve that. Please remember that your mother abusing you is not your fault, and not the result of something you did, it is[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Hi anon. My best advice to you is 1. Watch yourself for abusive behavior, and try to avoid it. If you see yourself becoming abusive, remove yourself from the situation until your mood has changed. 2. When you believe you[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
hey noticed I’ve been distant lately because I realized that I’ve been abused my entire life. They keep pushing family time even harder and one time accused my boyfriend of being abusive because they thought they heard him smack me[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Anyone who has been abused, or around abusive, toxic behavior will find themselves second guessing themselves and their own behavior. I know that I have to constantly ask myself if I am being too harsh, and to evaluate my motives[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Even if someone cares about you they can still be abusive, anon. Hitting someone is never okay, and hitting you is just about the exact OPPOSITE of what anyone should do while you’re having an anxiety attack!
Anon, that is absolutely abuse. Furthermore if she denies you care for your condition, or denies it exists entirely (calls you melodramatic, pretends you don’t have a medical condition) that is ALSO abuse.
All abuse counts. There is not a bar to pass to count as ‘abused enough’. If you have experienced abuse, verbal, emotional, or physical, your trauma is valid and you deserve support.
when people grasp my hair i freak out. my mum also always says things like “because if you don’t then i’ll make your life miserable. i also have a diagnosed learning disability that they won’t let me get and IEP(individual[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
It depends, anon, I can’t know exactly what your mother is saying. If she is harassing you about your weight, calling you names, picking on you i front of people, and deliberately making you feel bad, that’s abuse.
(2/2) a second opinion, but my mom is highly emotionally abusive in other ways, and tbh i need all the proof i can get from what memories i have that what she did was wrong. thank you so much for[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Please, anon, and anyone else reading this, never feel bad or invalid because you weren’t abused ‘enough’. Someone somewhere always has it ‘worse’ than someone else. Does that mean only the suffering of one single person on earth who has it the ‘worst’[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Hey anon, I’m so sorry you have to go through that. Threatening to kick you out is abuse, by itself, and you don’t deserve that. My parents did the same thing to me. I don’t know how old you are,[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Anon, I am so sorry to hear about this. Your friends are right, it is not normal or healthy for your parents to hit you under any circumstances. Its abuse. Think about it. Is it ever okay for another adult[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Please don’t feel bad for caring about your parents, anon. We are conditioned, by society, by our parents, and by our very biology as humans since we are small to love and depend on our parents. It takes a lot[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Here are some specific ways from my experience: Parents constantly call you names, or belittle you. (calling you fat, ugly, stupid, etc) Parents blame you for things that are not your fault (blame you for siblings actions, or random events[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I’m an adult daughter of a borderline and narcissistic mother. I’m in the process of going no contact. Any advice for coping? -an asker who wanted to remain anonymous Its gonna be hard. I’ve been there, personally. There’s very little[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
(2/2) Could this be true? You’d think if you really loved your child then you would find any way you could to remove them from a harmful situation. Is this just my trust issues or??? It feels like he’s making[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I believe it ‘counts’ as CSA until the victim is no longer a minor, anon. After that its “just” sexual abuse.
Firstly, make sure there’s really no way you can move out. Is there a sympathetic relative who would take you in, or a friend whose parents would let you live with them for a while? You CAN get emancipated (in[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…