My parents did the best they could for me The best they could was Spending hundreds of dollars a month on weed when we didn’t have food or clothes refusing to cook, and refusing to let me use the kitchen[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority” and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say “if you won’t respect[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Help him get a prepaid cell phone Give him a place to stay as often as you can. Just being away from abuse for a few hours can be a big relief. Remind him that he is being abused. It[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Anyone who has been abused, or around abusive, toxic behavior will find themselves second guessing themselves and their own behavior. I know that I have to constantly ask myself if I am being too harsh, and to evaluate my motives[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Complete lack of privacy is abuse. Taking away your door, going through your possessions, and forcing you you to show every item you buy or receive is controlling and abusive.
Calling your child hurtful names is abuse, not teasing. If your parent calls you stupid, ugly, fat cow, loser, asshole, moron, or any other name designed to shame, hurt or otherwise be cruel that is verbal abuse.
I am so sorry, anon. You didn’t deserve that abuse, and I’ms sorry that it affects you so strongly to this day. Many of us who were abused definitely struggle with the same difficulties. We become so used to abuse[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Please, anon, and anyone else reading this, never feel bad or invalid because you weren’t abused ‘enough’. Someone somewhere always has it ‘worse’ than someone else. Does that mean only the suffering of one single person on earth who has it the ‘worst’[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
My parents did this to me too, anon. Whether consciously or unconsciously, its a control game. Its especially good at making children fear the cops as a consequence of bad behavior, instead of thinking of them as a real resource[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
The single best piece of advice I can offer young people currently in, and recently escaping environments of abuse is this: If you at all possibly can, buy yourself a $10 prepaid cell phone at walmart and hide it. Give[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Please don’t feel bad for caring about your parents, anon. We are conditioned, by society, by our parents, and by our very biology as humans since we are small to love and depend on our parents. It takes a lot[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
“At least we don’t hit you.” is something emotional abusers say.
Standing on the porch, in my bare feet, in the rain at 7 in the morning. Feeling the drops hitting my face as I close my eyes and look skyward. Smelling the salt in their air and feeling the cool[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…