Yes, you are being abused. I am sorry that is the case. Insulting you, punishing you for no reason, threatening violence, and making you feel worthless and useless are all methods of abuse. So is invading your privacy. Those are[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
You Are Allowed To Say ‘NO’. You are not selfish for saying no. You are not a bad person for wanting your own time, money, belongings, personal space and boundaries.
Yes, unfortunately anon, that’s probably the case, and I’m so sorry that it happens to you. Victims of abuse are often trained by their abusers to give everything of themselves. They are told they are being selfish for withholding anything[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
The only thing I do with asks is answer them. I hope that anyone can feel comfortable and safe sending me a message. I do ask that people please don’t send me messages about active suicide or self harm attempts,[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Hi there! 🙂 I wish your friend the best, and please direct them to this blog for any tips or encouragement on getting out of their situation. I don’t promote or reblog any fundraisers on this blog for two reasons:[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Thank you for your kind words, anon. Realizing that what you went through is abuse can be very hard, whether that was child abuse, spousal abuse, physical, emotional, or any other kind. Abusers of all kinds set their abuse up[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Please don’t be sorry to have sent this, anon. You are a victim of abuse, and that’s terrible. I know it feels like it, but you are not responsible for your mom, no matter she or what others say. I[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Unfortunately anon, you are not wrong. While CPS will always investigate a claim or tip, there can be a very high barrier to them actually removing minors from a household. And a CPS visit that doesn’t result in removal from[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Some things you can do for a friend who is being abused: Most importantly, be there for them emotionally. Tell them/remind them what they are going through is abuse, and they do not deserve it. If you can provide a[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Anon, I’m afraid I don’t have any specific resources for you, but I can assure you that you are correct, what your parents are doing to you is a form of psychological and sexual abuse. I went through very similar[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
traumaticexperiences: ugh this is really awful, and i don’t know a good solution for this at all, i ran away as soon as i had enough money not to be homeless, and i felt exactly the same – if they[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
My parents did the best they could for me The best they could was Spending hundreds of dollars a month on weed when we didn’t have food or clothes refusing to cook, and refusing to let me use the kitchen[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority” and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say “if you won’t respect[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Of being kicked out. She denies everything she ever done is wrong and says she gets mad at me bc of my “attitude”. I dont know what to do im sick of this and my bf cant help and asks[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I am so sorry, anon. Do you have any way to get away? A car? Someone you can live with for a few weeks while you find a job? You can also look into abuse and homeless shelters in your[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I am so sorry, anon. All of that you describe to me is abuse, and you don’t deserve that. Please remember that your mother abusing you is not your fault, and not the result of something you did, it is[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Help him get a prepaid cell phone Give him a place to stay as often as you can. Just being away from abuse for a few hours can be a big relief. Remind him that he is being abused. It[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Hi anon. My best advice to you is 1. Watch yourself for abusive behavior, and try to avoid it. If you see yourself becoming abusive, remove yourself from the situation until your mood has changed. 2. When you believe you[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I am so sorry to hear you’re in this situation, anon. I think in your case the first thing you need to do is to tackle your depression, so you CAN move out and get away from your abuser. Find[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
hey noticed I’ve been distant lately because I realized that I’ve been abused my entire life. They keep pushing family time even harder and one time accused my boyfriend of being abusive because they thought they heard him smack me[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Anyone who has been abused, or around abusive, toxic behavior will find themselves second guessing themselves and their own behavior. I know that I have to constantly ask myself if I am being too harsh, and to evaluate my motives[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Even if someone cares about you they can still be abusive, anon. Hitting someone is never okay, and hitting you is just about the exact OPPOSITE of what anyone should do while you’re having an anxiety attack!
Anon, that is absolutely abuse. Furthermore if she denies you care for your condition, or denies it exists entirely (calls you melodramatic, pretends you don’t have a medical condition) that is ALSO abuse.
All abuse counts. There is not a bar to pass to count as ‘abused enough’. If you have experienced abuse, verbal, emotional, or physical, your trauma is valid and you deserve support.
Complete lack of privacy is abuse. Taking away your door, going through your possessions, and forcing you you to show every item you buy or receive is controlling and abusive.
Calling your child hurtful names is abuse, not teasing. If your parent calls you stupid, ugly, fat cow, loser, asshole, moron, or any other name designed to shame, hurt or otherwise be cruel that is verbal abuse.
when people grasp my hair i freak out. my mum also always says things like “because if you don’t then i’ll make your life miserable. i also have a diagnosed learning disability that they won’t let me get and IEP(individual[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Here’s how the phones work. You buy the phone outright. It costs about $10. Then you buy a minutes card that goes along with the service. You follow the instructions on the phone to add the minutes to your account.[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
It depends, anon, I can’t know exactly what your mother is saying. If she is harassing you about your weight, calling you names, picking on you i front of people, and deliberately making you feel bad, that’s abuse.