The single best piece of advice I can offer young people currently in, and recently escaping environments of abuse is this: If you at all possibly can, buy yourself a $10 prepaid cell phone at walmart and hide it. Give[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I am so sorry, anon. I am not surprised things have gotten worse as you get closer to moving out. What is happening is probably the beginning of what is known as an “extinction burst”. That’s when a behavior temporarily gets[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
oftoxicparents: Please don’t feel bad for caring about your parents, anon. We are conditioned, by society, by our parents, and by our very biology as humans since we are small to love and depend on our parents. It takes a[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Please don’t feel bad for caring about your parents, anon. We are conditioned, by society, by our parents, and by our very biology as humans since we are small to love and depend on our parents. It takes a lot[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
oftoxicparents: Here are some specific ways from my experience: Parents constantly call you names, or belittle you. (calling you fat, ugly, stupid, etc) Parents blame you for things that are not your fault (blame you for siblings actions, or random[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Here are some specific ways from my experience: Parents constantly call you names, or belittle you. (calling you fat, ugly, stupid, etc) Parents blame you for things that are not your fault (blame you for siblings actions, or random events[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Running a blog that’s basically about child abuse and toxic parenting has been great for me emotionally to get my feelings out, but occasionally its fucking heavy. Just got an ask from a freaking 12 year old being abused by[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Hi there, Gabby. 🙂 Do you have a friend at school whose parents you trust? If so, I want you to next time you see them, ask to talk to them alone and tell them it is serious. Tell them[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I’m an adult daughter of a borderline and narcissistic mother. I’m in the process of going no contact. Any advice for coping? -an asker who wanted to remain anonymous Its gonna be hard. I’ve been there, personally. There’s very little[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
That’s hard, anon. Do you have a job? It sounds like you should be looking to leave the house however you can at this point. Focus your effort on moving out and getting out from under your parents thumb. If[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Do you have a sympathetic friend that you could stay with for a little while? If you do, you should try that. Another thing you can do is if you have about $20, go to Walmart and buy a ‘burner’ phone-[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
(2/2) Could this be true? You’d think if you really loved your child then you would find any way you could to remove them from a harmful situation. Is this just my trust issues or??? It feels like he’s making[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
“At least we don’t hit you.” is something emotional abusers say.
A parent threatening violence is always abuse. Threats of violence are legally considered assault.
I believe it ‘counts’ as CSA until the victim is no longer a minor, anon. After that its “just” sexual abuse.
Are you in the United States? I would try talking to your school guidance counselor about this. They may know of services that can help you. Just so you know, guidance counselors are mandatory reporters in the US, so if[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Firstly, make sure there’s really no way you can move out. Is there a sympathetic relative who would take you in, or a friend whose parents would let you live with them for a while? You CAN get emancipated (in[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I can tell you from experience that self-centered parents are very prone to projecting their own selfishness on their children. These toxic parents expect their children to essentially be dolls for them with no independent wants or needs, other than[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Please do move out, anon, I know it will be hard, but it will also be so, so worth it! I know you can find some place to live, whether it is with friends, or in affordable housing within your[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
You are absolutely justified in feeling hurt, angry and offended by this reaction, anon. Your father, a person who is supposed to care about you, and do anything they can for you, has completely dismissed your pain and suffering, called[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
alhazredshound: toxic-nymphet: I think one of the worst forms of child abuse is injecting them with a terminal sense of guilt. parents who constantly use guilt as a disciplinary tactic end up raising children who are unable and afraid to[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
jeshire-katt: captain-s-mindfang: jeshire-katt: When ever I see the “mental illness isn’t real” crowd I would swear that these people must have forgotten that the brain is an organ working on chemical reactions. If you’d believe chronic hormonal or chemical imbalance or[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
jeshire-katt: When ever I see the “mental illness isn’t real” crowd I would swear that these people must have forgotten that the brain is an organ working on chemical reactions. If you’d believe chronic hormonal or chemical imbalance or issues like[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
sensationalpsychoticskell replied to your post “did they really use wikipedia as a valid source for mental…” it did kinda sound like you were saying you can only have one personality disorder. But, there are freaking professionals out there who don’t[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Standing on the porch, in my bare feet, in the rain at 7 in the morning. Feeling the drops hitting my face as I close my eyes and look skyward. Smelling the salt in their air and feeling the cool[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…