(*Part 2*) She was lying on the floor bleeding and unconsious, while he ran out the back door, and I was panicked and terrified. I blacked out after that, and have no memory of what came next. I’m sorry, I[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
(Part 2) He never hits me, but when I cry because his insults hurt my feelings, I’m called a crybaby, manipulative, or even histrionic (I do NOT have HPD). He claims that I try to manipulate him by crying, and[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
(2/?) “I’m sorry for making you upset, but I will not apologize for punishing you” I’m not entirely sure if all this is considered abuse though, since she’s not always like this. She can be super duper nice too, and[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
-Fay (2/2) I remember hearing my mom on the phone say,(she was also drinking and smoking, which is normal for her) “I can’t wait ‘till im old and forget my kids” which makes the guilt burn even brighter. but i[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Our society has a real problem when it comes to the bodily autonomy of children. While your actions may be considered abusive, you are not doing anything that hasn’t been repeatedly modeled to you and condoned by a society that[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
2) think I’m being abused emotionally because my grades are never good enough if they’re not A’s because that’s what my parents drilled into me so I get panic attacks if I think I’ll get less, and I jump when[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Here are some ideas for those people who are not comfortable fully cutting off their abusive parents, and want to establish good boundaries. Start with distance contact. Only emails or only texts. If they exhibit abusive or demanding behavior, tell[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
(2) that would eventually turn into repeated rehashing of my personal flaws. she was terribly controlling when it came to clothes, hair, makeup, and media consumption (music, tv, internet, etc). but the issue is, now that i’m out of her[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Trouble remembering childhood events can be a sign of trauma and abuse, sexual or non-sexual. Please remember that non-sexual abuse can be just as damaging as sexual abuse. If you are in a position to I recommend seeking therapy. A[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
This is hard, and will depend a lot on your situation, anon. Do you still live with your mother? There might be no way for you to escape spending time with your mother without further abusive consequences. If there’s no[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Unfortunately, anon, there’s not an easy answer here. People’s words effect us, and how we feel, even if the person saying those words is a stranger. When the person is a parent, someone who is supposed to nurture us and[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
In order to make posts easier to find, and the blog more accessible for finding information, I’ve gone back and retagged old posts, and made a tag list. You can see the tag list here. I have including tags for[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
its almost like when we arent actually fighting, the fights never happened in the first place. If i get upset or mad later about something they said, they deny saying it and say im exagerating or over reacting. Ive started[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Abusers, especially abusive parents, don’t want to believe they are/were abusive. The especially do not not want *you* to believe that they were abusive. Abusers always will go out of their way to minimize the harm they have done, and[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
I barely remember any of my childhood so I can’t say if anything worse did or didn’t happen. I’ve been told things my brother and I do, like communicating their mood and acting too happy or like a mediator to[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Yes, you are being abused. I am sorry that is the case. Insulting you, punishing you for no reason, threatening violence, and making you feel worthless and useless are all methods of abuse. So is invading your privacy. Those are[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
You Are Allowed To Say ‘NO’. You are not selfish for saying no. You are not a bad person for wanting your own time, money, belongings, personal space and boundaries.
Yes, unfortunately anon, that’s probably the case, and I’m so sorry that it happens to you. Victims of abuse are often trained by their abusers to give everything of themselves. They are told they are being selfish for withholding anything[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
The only thing I do with asks is answer them. I hope that anyone can feel comfortable and safe sending me a message. I do ask that people please don’t send me messages about active suicide or self harm attempts,[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Hi there! 🙂 I wish your friend the best, and please direct them to this blog for any tips or encouragement on getting out of their situation. I don’t promote or reblog any fundraisers on this blog for two reasons:[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Thank you for your kind words, anon. Realizing that what you went through is abuse can be very hard, whether that was child abuse, spousal abuse, physical, emotional, or any other kind. Abusers of all kinds set their abuse up[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Please don’t be sorry to have sent this, anon. You are a victim of abuse, and that’s terrible. I know it feels like it, but you are not responsible for your mom, no matter she or what others say. I[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Unfortunately anon, you are not wrong. While CPS will always investigate a claim or tip, there can be a very high barrier to them actually removing minors from a household. And a CPS visit that doesn’t result in removal from[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Physical abuse can be defined as any intentional act causing injury or trauma to another person or animal by way of bodily contact. If you were hit even lightly, or touched in any way that upset you, that’s physical abuse.[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Some things you can do for a friend who is being abused: Most importantly, be there for them emotionally. Tell them/remind them what they are going through is abuse, and they do not deserve it. If you can provide a[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
Anon, I’m afraid I don’t have any specific resources for you, but I can assure you that you are correct, what your parents are doing to you is a form of psychological and sexual abuse. I went through very similar[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
traumaticexperiences: ugh this is really awful, and i don’t know a good solution for this at all, i ran away as soon as i had enough money not to be homeless, and i felt exactly the same – if they[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
furiousgoldfish: Let’s play, “was I abused” game! Reblog and bold the things your parents have done to you! Italicize if you’re not sure. (copy paste it all and then bold) Physical abuse parent slapped me to prove their point/teach me[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…
My parents did the best they could for me The best they could was Spending hundreds of dollars a month on weed when we didn’t have food or clothes refusing to cook, and refusing to let me use the kitchen[…]↓ Read the rest of this entry…